Alcoholic dating a drinker
Sports memorabilia scattered the walls and piles of dirty laundry littered his bedroom floor. I asked him to play me a song and he started strumming his favorite Pearl Jam intro. He had me, 21-year-old girl, absolutely fooled, head-over-heels in love.
With a gleam in his deep, brown eyes and a smirk on his face, he stared at me and started singing. Although I learned that summer that he had a problem with alcohol, I chose to stay with him off and on for three years — three years that ultimately changed my perception of relationships.
I was holding a plastic tray full of miniature bottles of alcohol—including SKYY Vodka, Beefeater Gin and Johnnie Walker—as part of my Halloween costume. My bowl of peanuts was still full, but all the bottles were nearly empty.
I watched as my then-boyfriend chugged the last one.
For example, having a couple glasses of wine at dinner is probably no big deal, but a third and a fourth? It’s natural to have a drink or two to stave off the inevitable anxiety that comes with date night, but anything more than that tells you that this is someone who relies on alcohol to a fairly extreme degree.
I'm not sure yet how I feel about that, though I do know that when I see him I just get this overwhelming feeling that I want to take care of him and enjoy his company.Several of us confronted him about it, and he has asked older men from his congregation as well as some of his friends to hold him accountable.I'm not sure if this is a big enough issue that I shouldn't date him.Picture it: You’re sitting across from your date at dinner, looking forward to all that the rest of the evening has to offer — and then he orders another drink. You cringe slightly as he starts getting a little louder and more playful.A quick word to the wise: Watch out for the inevitable date who’s an alcoholic.