Michael says his artistry and music have caused black women in his family and neighborhood to think that he's "weird." And Koro says his "God-fearing" ways have been a turnoff for black women he's come across.After hearing the men's experiences (and, as the above clip shows, challenging some of their notions), Iyanla thanks them for coming to the House of Healing.Michael, 46-Year-Old Musician "Before [black women] even knew me, they said, 'How many kids you got? ' Dating outside my race, I haven't had no issues like that at all." Koro, 33-Year-Old Teacher "I've been practicing abstinence for three years—three years with no sex.I'm looking for someone that can respect my views on this, someone that can love me for me." Bo, 28-Year-Old Business Owner "I don't date black women now because of past experiences. The dating scene can get quite difficult, especially with our hectic lives.To many black women, online dating is the only way to open major doors to love.
To camera, the men explain themselves with unflinching honesty.
But make no mistake about it: This is the result of a certain kind of white privilege, not a lack of women of color interested in dating white men or making their love lives public.
So while it should certainly make headlines that Lindsay is Black, her racial preferences — or lack thereof — on the other hand, should not.
Black men like Nate Parker and John Ridley have publicly accused Black women of being closed-minded or sabotaging them in a spiteful display of intolerance because the men date non-Black women.
And a white-dominated American society, which sees itself as way more woke than it actually is, can’t understand why Black women aren’t reflecting the same acceptance of interracial relationships as the rest of America (even though the country just came around to it less than 60 years ago).