Gorgeous men intimidating
I bought in to the false idea that ‘men commit to women who are better; women who are achievers’ – which leads to the reality that; As women, our appeal to men in a relationship has nothing to do with how much we achieve; it has everything to do with our soul; and our heart as a woman.It has everything to do with how kind, loyal and feminine we show up.It was that I walked around, living my life from this place of thinking that my worth came from being career minded and successful. And yet – it pushed the better men away, because I didn’t need their direction.And that became a habit; so much so that when i spoke to men, my body was tight, I wasn’t trusting, I was fully set on directing my own life. I wasn’t soft, I was hard and trying to just be enough.Some avoid the place altogether because they feel embarrassed by men seeing them in tight lycra.“I go to the gym because I don’t have a good figure,” one tells me. But I don’t want people to judge the way I look when I don’t even like how my body looks yet. Because most men don’t shout at women in the gym – they sexually objectify them instead.(Click here to get your Goddess Report)On this particular night, one nice young man did come up to me and introduce himself. Looking back, i now realise that it wasn’t that men were intimidated and THAT is why they didn’t or couldn’t be in a relationship with me. Ok.’ From that day on, I noticed that whenever I told men this, this particular reaction was not uncommon at all. Heh, Finally, I feel some sort of power in my life – I’m doing a LAW degree and you can’t compare to that!
But he made a comment about something in my field, and I responded with some information from a research paper I had just published,” she told me.
Until recently, that is, since I’ve started to notice an alarming trend: In three of my last four rejections, I concluded that the guy ended things with me because I intimidated him.
I call this trend “alarming” because I usually consider it delusional to blame a guy’s lack of interest on intimidation. ” is a phrase that I’ve always thought of as the battle cry for cheesy, brainless girls who are totally lacking in any charming or marketable attributes whatsoever.
It’s pretty hard to take the sting out of being rejected by a guy after a month or so of semi-serious dating, especially when the signs seemed to be indicating a reasonable likelihood of success.
Sadly, I find myself in this situation a little too often, so by now I’ve got a system for dealing with my hurt feelings and bruised ego in the immediate wake of being rejected.