Older gay men for younger dating
Here in Part 1, we have advice for the distinguished older guy who’s looking for some company on his next trip around the block. If he doesn’t call you back right away, don’t take it personally — he’s still learning how to be a man. Instead, put yourself in his shoes, and remember how flakey you were when you were a kid. The stuff that makes relationships strong — no matter what your ages are — are when you both find something that you like to do together. So keep an eye out for those boys on social networks, but when you feel a real rapport, give him the benefit of the doubt. Even though gay men are great at intergenerational relationships, there are some issues that we still haven’t quite figured out. It’s hard for young gays to understand the medical problems that older gays face, whether it’s HIV or just simple arthritis.
Stay tuned for Part 2, where we offer counsel to younger men. Chances are, if you get along well, he’s interested in the real you. “I would love to see more resources for gays who are aging,” Sandler says.
Woman B: Twenty-seven and he recently turned 42 (we're still together). We discovered we had a lot of interests in common and became good friends. Most of the men I dated more casually at the time were in their 30s. It also made me feel special — this man seemed so much more worldly than the men my age, and the fact that he was interested in me seemed too good to be true. Woman D: Originally I think I was flattered that somebody who had experienced so much of life was interested in me.
Woman B: I rented a flat in the backyard of his then-girlfriend. But I knew he was probably 10 years older than me and that was a little bit of the attraction, because I thought that he would be older and more settled with none of the bullshit that you have in your 20s.
My friend (who was my age and in high school with me) worked at a ski resort near us. He's always been attracted to a person's personality. He actually thought I was older than I am, and both his wives were close to him in age.
The study of Finnish adults found that many heterosexual men were, in fact, interested in women substantially younger than they were.In decades past, because of the closet and social stigma, it used to be far more common for older/younger pairings to have a creepy power dynamic in which one or both parties were taking advantage of each other.We suffered with the stereotype of the creepy old cruiser picking up unwitting boys; or the wicked rentboy stealing from a hapless senior. No matter what, he’s going to make you feel old sometimes.And on average, they had a more generous definition of “too young” than women did.But on the other hand, men were also attracted to women their own age.