Tips for successful dating and relationships
“I went into the marriage with sky-high expectations.
Mostly, I was looking for someone to bring me happiness.
If you have sex before you get to know someone or as a of getting to know someone, it will cloud your judgement and is likely to put you in The Justifying Zone, that special mental place that we go to when we sexually or emotionally invest too soon and look, or should I say, scratch around, for reasons to justify the initial investment because we don’t like to think that we’ve slept with someone who is not appropriate for us. This period is for you to learn about the other party even if what you learn spells the end of your involvement. Contrary to popular opinion, the key thing that you need to discover is whether you share common core values – this is what will take you from dating into a bona fide relationship. While I appreciate that you’ve got to get out there and meet people, it shouldn’t be done to the exclusion of having a life otherwise every date will carry more meaning and weight than is warranted. It may feel like the best thing to do is jump back into the saddle after a break up but if you haven’t given yourself time to get over it, you are likely to end up sabotaging your dates.
If you rely on sexual chemistry and common interests and forget to discover whether you share common values and the other landmarks of healthy and successful relationships, you will mistake personality for character, lust and attraction for the presence of shared core values, and will ultimately struggle to understand why you cannot move forward with somebody with whom you believe you have so much in common. All that someone being very good at sex tells you is that they’re very good at sex and/or very practised at it. It will feel as if it’s a painful interview and it’ll become a numbers game. It is also likely that the emotions that are still attached to your ex will create drama in itself.
What I realized is that I am responsible for my own happiness and fulfillment.For many of us, our emotional baggage can make finding the right romantic partner a difficult journey.Perhaps you grew up in a household where there was no role model of a solid, healthy relationship and you doubt that such a thing even exists.The one big relationship tip all girls need to know Many women say they try hard but they just can’t make relationships work.A few others say they had no idea when the relationship started to go bad.